Helpful Tips For Raising Responsible Kids

Sometimes it can feel like we’re just grasping at straws when it comes to raising our children right.  Teaching your kids responsibility can seem extremely difficult, but these simple tips will successfully help you raise responsible young adults with minimal stress and frustration on your part.

Tips For Raising Responsible Children

Before we start, I just want to preface by saying that if you’re a stay-at-home parent, you are absolutely NOT allowed to feel guilty for having your kids do chores that you are capable of doing yourself.  The point of being a parent is not to cater to your child’s every need, but rather to teach them how to fend for themselves so that the transition from responsible child to responsible adult will be painless.  That being said – here are some helpful tips for teaching your child to be responsible.

1.)  Start them early!  Try to start teaching your child responsibility at a young age.  Toddler age is best.  If you wait too long to start teaching your child – it’ll only confuse them and make it a more painful process.  So don’t wait!

2.)  Teach with your actions.  Don’t just TALK to your child about responsibility – show them  through your actions!  Use the word “we” a lot, like saying this when you’re done with dinner: “Okay..now we’re all going to put our dishes in the sink.”  Ask loved ones and babysitters to do the same so that there’s no confusion.

3.)  Let kids help you.  Kids actually like to help!  They like to feel useful and important. Make them feel like they’re needed and that they have an important role to play by asking them to help!  You’ll be surprised at how willing they are.

4.)  Edify and thank your children.  Positive reinforcement is key.  Say things like: “I’m so proud of you for doing _____!”  or “Thank you for _____!”  They’ll develop a sense of ownership for these tasks and it’ll build their confidence.  It’ll also help them take initiative when at school or in other situations.

5.) Give them praise, time, and self-confidence rather than rewards.  There is a time and place for rewards, but this is not it.  Give them your time and boost their self-confidence with praise and positive edification instead.

6.)  Teach about consequences by enforcing rules.  Consistency is key for this point.   If your child refuses to pick up their toys, calmly let them know that as a consequence, they won’t be able to play with these toys the next day if he leaves them out.  This makes it their choice and reinforces the value of responsibility.

7.)  Provide a structured routine with a positive end.  Kids thrive on structure.  Instead of offering rewards, set a positive end to their routine.  For example, your child must eat breakfast, put their dishes in the sink, and brush their teeth before playing their favorite game.  The game is not the reward, but rather the end of the routine.

8.)  Recognize effort rather than perfection.  Your child may not make their bed perfectly, but it is the effort involved that counts.  Don’t expect perfection!  Eventually they’ll learn the value of a job well done, but right now what counts is that they’re making a good effort.

Instilling responsibility in your child may seem hard, but what about parenting is easy?  Teach your child responsibility now, and it just may end up being one of the greatest gifts you could give them.  Follow these tips to help raise your child into a responsible adult.

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Book Review – Boys Should Be Boys, 7 Secrets to Raising Healthy Sons

Parenting books are a dime a dozen, but good parenting books are a rare find.  This one is a true gem and is a must read for parents raising boys.  This book is written by acclaimed author and pediatric doctor, Meg Meeker M.D.  Dr. Meeker is the author of several books on parenting and parent/child relationships.  Her books have been highly acclaimed by parents the world over. Boys Should Be Boys, 7 Secrets to Raising Healthy Sons by Meg Meeker, MD

In Boys Should Be Boys, 7 Secrets to Raising Healthy Sons, Dr. Meeker reminds parents that there is no greater blessing (or responsibility) than raising strong and healthy young men.  This book helps parents enable today’s boys to become mature, confident, and thoughtful men of tomorrow. In the book, we are reminded that boys will always be boys.  That means that they are rambunctious, adventurous and curious.  They climb trees, build forts, playing tackle football, and push their growing bodies to the limit as part of the rite of passage into manhood.  However, in today’s society our sons face an increasingly hostile world that doesn’t value the high-spirited, magical nature of boys.

In a collective call to let our boys be boys, Dr. Meg Meeker explores the secrets to boyhood, including
• why rules and boundaries are crucial– and why boys feel lost without them
• how the outdoors is still the best playground, offering the sense of adventure that only Mother Nature can provide
• the essential ways to preserve a boy’s innocence (and help him grow up)
• the pitfalls moms and dads face when talking to their sons
• why moody and rebellious boys are not normal– and how to address such behavior
• how and when the “big”questions in life should be discussed: why he is here, what his purpose is, and why he is important.

Parents are blessed with intuition and heart, but raising sons is a daunting responsibility. This uplifting guide makes the job a little easier.  Get your copy today and pass it on!